culture shock!!.....or just plain abnormal..

so just a quick scratch about the shock i got yesterday while having dinner

Basically i went out to dinner with a Friend of mine lets call her(lala)..lol.for now, anywayz we where in this Brazilian restaurant, oh delicious food btw...Brazilian is kind of like Naija food in a way...difference is they eat rice with no stew...instead beans(basically beans is the sauce), and they top that up with some spiced fries(yummy!), and i am supposed to be on a diet..lol..

Anywayz as we where arguing (Yes! i tend to argue a lot, and i like to win my arguments), the lady serving us brought lala her shake, and a glass of water, as i was there talking, trying to enjoy my Brazilian soda, lala removed the chewing gum from her mouth and dropped it into there glass of water. Yes people!. lala dropped her gum into a glass of water, and drank her this water, happily.

Am i wrong to have been so surprised. I need answers, i need somebody to explain to me why lala, even after arguing with her, that what she did was not right neither was it normal, she looked at me in shock and said "what is normal and what is not normal" Now my question to my readers today is this: Is putting gum into a glass of water normal?. lala also said that the word to use for her act is not "normal" but rather shocked. Because i have never seen somebody do that before so i was basically experiencing a "culture shock". I agree, but i am sorry but putting gum into my glass of drinking water is def not normal, and yes! it sure is shocking to say the least.

culture shocking kisses
from me to you.....xxx

All Nigerian men cheat..true or false?!

BEFORE YOU READ. I RAISE MY RIGHT HAND UP, AND ADMIT THAT I MAY BE GUILTY OF SOME OF HE THINGS WRITTEN ON HERE...SO PLEASE i am NO SAINT..WHATSOEVER...TRYING TO BE ONE THOUGH!..LOL.

SO ME AND A VERY GOOD FRIEND OF MINE WHERE CHATTING THE OTHER DAY, AND WE HAPPENED TO DISCUSS ABOUT THE MANY DANGERS OF GETTING MARRIED TO A NAIJA GUY...SWEET!!!....ERRMMMM...NAAT!!....

SO APPARENTLY A LOT OF GUYS BELIEVE THAT, EVERY NAIJA GUY CHEATS....SORRY GIRLS..BUT UNFORTUNATELY THEY CLAIM FOR A FACT THAT THIS SAD THING IS TRUE. GOD DAMN NAIJA GUYS..WHO THE HELL DO THEY THINK THEY ARE NYWAYZ?....BRAD PITT?...OR WILL SMITH?...WAT THE HELL!. NYWAYZ I WILL TRY NOT TO LET MYSELF GO HERE AS I ALREADY DID THAT WHEN TALKING TO SOME OF MY GUY FRIENDS ABOUT THIS...WHAT A PATHETIC DISCUSSION! MAKES ME SICK..SORRY OOPS!!..THERE I GO AGAIN.......CONTINUED BELOW..

SO FOR ME TO EXPLAIN WHAT WE ACTUALLY DISCUSSED, I WILL HAVE TO GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE. SHORT STORY!. STORY STORY!...STORY...

OK SO THERE IS THIS GIRL MS CHERRY GOING OUT WITH THIS REALLY BAD, FINE, CUTE,(SO HE FEELS)..LOL, BAD ASS, ARROGANT, PROUD BASTARD OF A BOY..OOPS!!..DID I SAY BASTARD?...WELL THEY SELDOM ARE. lets SAY HIS NAME IS MR POP..HEHEHE..POP THAT CHERRY!!..HAHAH..GOD I CRACK MYSELF UP..LOL..NYWAYZSO CHERRY AND POP..LOL..ARE SUPPOSED TO BE IN THIS VERY SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, BUT U KNOW HOW IT IS WITH THE SO CALLED BAD BOYS QUOTE ON QUOTE....THEY CHEAT,(SOMETIMES), SOME LIE(A WHOLE LOT), VERY PROUD, AND ARROGANT, NEVER HAVE TIME FOR YOU, RARELY PICK THEIR PHONE UP, HAS TOO MANY GOD DAMN FRIENDS(GIRLS AND GUYS), SOME ARE QUITE SMART, SOME CAN BE AMBITIOUS, SELFISH, BASICALLY YOU KNOW HOW THEY ARE...THE BAD GUYS!!...THE ONES GIRLS TEND TO DIE FOR!!..YEAH THOSE ONES..DON'T ACT LIKE YOUR NOT ONE OF THEM...U KNOW YOU LIKE THEM!!..LOL..THEY MAKE YOU GO CRAZY (AS IN GU GU GA GA!!..LOL KIND OF STURVVS)..SOMETIMES YOU ACTUALLY SEE YOURSELF ACTING LIKE A MAD WOMAN....ALL BECAUSE OF MR POP....BAAAAD GUUUYYY!!DON'T GET ME WRONG POP CAN BE NICE SOMETIMES, HE HAS HIS GOOD SIDES, BUT THE BAD TENDS TO OUTSHINE THE GOOD, WHICH IS NOT A GOOD THING, BUT FOR SOME ODD REASON, THE REASONS WE GIRLS CANNOT PUT OUR HAND TO EXPLAIN, WE T END TO PREFER THE BAAADDD GUUUYYS!!. POP IS FUNNY, HE MAKES US LAUGH, HE IS FUN TO BE AROUND, HE HAS A LOT OF FRIENDS, I MEAN A LOT IS DEF POPPING IN POPS LIFE. NEVER A DULL MOMENT WITH POP, SEX IS GREAT, ALL THAT GOOD STUFF, "BUT I KNOW POP IS NOT GOOD FOR ME" CHERRY SAYS...BUT Y? WE ASK..WELL CHERRY CONTINUES, HE IS EXTREMELY EXCITING AND ALL, BUT HE DOESN'T ACT LIKE HE LOVES ME EVEN THO HE SAYS HE DOES, HE DOESN'T SEEM TO CARE ABOUT ME, OR CALL ME AS MUCH, HE IS ALWAYS OUT, TOO MANY GIRLS CALL HIM, HE IS TRES GOOD WITH GIVING AN EXCUSE, I MEAN I LIKE HIM A LOT BUT DAMN, I JUST WANT IT TO BE DIFFERENT...I WANT TO FEEL LIKE I EXIST IN HIS LIFE, LIKE I AM HIS QUEEN OF QUEENS, LIKE HE CANT DO WITHOUT ME. HEYA!..PELE MY DEAR..."POP MUST BE A BASTARD"... WE SAY....ERMMM..NA TODAY...DID YOU JUST REALIZE THAT??...BUT THEN BY THE TIME YOU DO IT IS TOO LATE. YOU HAVE FALLEN HEAD OVER HEELS, MADLY IN LOVE, CANT DO WITHOUT YOU..MR POP..BUT WHY?ANYWAYZ POP AND CHERRY FINALLY REALIZE AFTER FOUR TO TEN LONG YEARS(MAY BE SHORTER), THAT THEY DO NOT FIT EACH OTHER. CHERRY REALIZES THAT AS MUCH AS SHE LOVES POP, POP JUST DOES NOT HAVE THAT MUCH LOVE FOR CHERRY, AND CHERRY REALIZES AS MUCH AS HE CARES AND HAS LOVE FOR CHERRY(NOT IN LOVE, BUT HAS LOVE FOR!) HE IS NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN, NOT READY FOR THAT SERIOUS COMMITMENT, JUST CANNOT MAKE IT NOW. POP FEELS LIKE THIS IS SO BECAUSE HE NEEDS TO CONCENTRATE ON MORE IMPORTANT THINGS LIKE BUSINESS, WORK, HIS FAMILY..BLAH..BLAH!!..WHATEVER, AND THEN POP TELLS CHERRY "IT'S NOT YOU BABE ITS ME!".HA..LOL.........THE NEXT WEEK POP IS WITH ANOTHER GIRL MS WHATEVER HER NAME IS....FINALLY..FINNNNAAALLY,,,,AFTER SOME YEARS....DEAR CHERRY, FINALLY REALIZES THAT POP AIN'T COMING BACK ANYTIME SOON, AND SHE HAS TO MOVE THE HELL ON, SO SHE MEETS THIS GUY. THE NICE GUY!!....MR ROMANTIC...VERY FANTASTIC......LOL...NYWAYZ SHE MEETS ROMANTIC, ROMANTIC IS EXTREMELY NICE, CHARMING, SOMETIMES THEY CAN BE CUTE TOO, SMART, IVY LEAGUE, THEY COULD BE THE SAME AS POP..OR MAY BE VICE VERSA...NYWAYZ THE POINT IS HE IS NICE!!...SHE NOTICES THAT ROMANTIC HAS ALL THE THINGS SHE WISHED POP WOULD HAVE, CARING, LOVING, JUST GENERALLY A SWEETHEART...BUT THEN SHE DOES NOT SEEM TO LIKE HIM AS MUCH, DO NOT GET ME WRONG, CHERRY LOVES HIM, BUT SHE STILL NEEDS THAT EXCITEMENT..U KNOW..WHATEVER THE HELL IT MEANS.BUT THEN ROMANTIC DOES NOT HAVE IT THO. HE IS MORE ON THE SERIOUS SIDE, DOES NOT HAVE TOO MUCH TIME FOR FRIENDS, PARTY, THE GOOD LIFE(OR SO WE THINK)......AND THEN CHERRY SEES HERSELF CALLING POP.NOT EVERYDAY, BUT ONCE IN A WHILE, THEY TALK...WHAT A DRAG!! U SAY....BUT YEAH! IT HAPPENSSO MY POINT IS. MY GUY FRIEND(NAME ENCLOSED FOR SAFETY REASONS).....SAYS THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY CHERRY WILL STILL PREFER POP, EVEN THOUGH SHE MIGHT BE MARRIED TO ROMANTIC, SHE WOULD STILL WANT THAT POP TO EXCITE HER. BASICALLY SAYING GIRLS/WOMEN PREFER THE BAAADD GUUY! TO THE NICE GUY! NO MATTER HOW MUCH THEY TRY TO HIDE IT.

MY GUY FRIEND ALSO MENTIONED THAT THIS CAUSES WOMEN WHO ARE MARRIED TO CHEAT, AND GIRLS WHO HAVE BOYFRIENDS TO ALSO CHEAT.ANOTHER GUY FRIEND OF MINE ALSO SAID THAT, A LOT OF NIGERIAN MEN CHEAT, MARRIED, OR JUST DATING, AND THAT HE FEELS IT WOULD BE BETTER FOR EVERY NAIJA GUY, TO MOVE BACK TO NIGERIA, AND HAVE SO MUCH FUN FOR AT LEAST 5 YEARS OR MORE BEFORE THEY ACTUALLY SETTLE DOWN. (NO COMMENT ON THIS ONE).ANOTHER GUY SAID NICE GUYS WHO DO NOT CHEAT MOSTLY SOMETIMES TEND TO BE VERY SISI LIKE...THEY DON'T HAVE THE BALLS...(MIND MY WORD!), AND THAT GUYS WHO DO CHEAT SOMETIMES TEND TO BE A MANS MAN..HA..I MEAN COME ON! WHATTTTT!!!MEN DO NOT HAVE TO CHEAT, AND IT IS FUNNY BECAUSE I MET A FAMILY FRIEND OF MINE WHO IS GETTING MARRIED THIS XMAS, AND HE JUST TURNED 26, WHEN HE TOLD ME HE WAS GETTING MARRIED I WAS A BIT SHOCKED, BECAUSE NORMALLY IN NAIJA I FEEL LIKE GUYS TEND TO GET MARRIED AROUND 27 TO 31..MAYBE 32...HOW IGNORANT WAS I?...THE GUY SAID TO ME, NOT ALL GUYS ARE CHILDISH AT HIS AGE, HE SAID" A LOT OF US KNOW WHAT WE WANT, AND WE DO NOT HAVE TO WASTE ANY TIME, WHILE SOME JUST ARE NOT"...

HE SAID SOME OTHER THINGS THAT GOT ME THINKING THAT DAY NYWAYZ, I WAS LIKE KAI! AND THIS ONE HAD TO BE GETTING MARRIED THIS YEAR ABI??..LOL...BUT NYWAYZ....MY POINT IS THE WHOLE THING ABOUT A GUY HAVING FUN BEFORE HE GETS MARRIED IS PLAYED OUT....ONCE A CHEAT...ALWAYS A CHEAT DEAR!!..WHETHER YOU HAVE FUN FOR 20 YEARS....WHAT MAKES YOU THINK, YOU WOULD BE ABLE TO KEEP THE ZIPPERS UP WHEN YOUR MARRIED??...(FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE) REMEMBER?I DO NOT WANT TO BELIEVE THAT A LOT OF MEN CHEAT, ESP MARRIED MEN, IN FACT IT MAKES ME SICK TO THINK THAT, YOUR POOR WIFE IS SITTING AT HOME, THINKING MY DEAR HUSBAND, AND THE SAD SAD SO CALLED HUSBAND IS OUTSIDE DOING GOD KNOWS WHAT WITH GOD KNOWS WHO..HISSSSS!...QUITE SAD!...BUT VERY TRUETHE TRUTH IS THERE ARE GUYS OUT THERE WHO DON'T CHEAT, THERE ARE GUYS OUT THERE WHO ARE JUST IN THE MIDDLE, MEANING....THEY ARE NOT THE BAAAADDDD GUUUY!!, AND THEY ARE NOT THE GOOOODD GUY, QUOTE ON QUOTE, THEY ARE JUST BETWEEN, AND I FEEL THAT IS WHAT EVERY GIRL SHOULD PRAY FOR. YOU DON'T WANT A SELFISH BASTARD, AND YOU ALSO DO NOT WANT SOMEBODY CALLING YOUR PHONE 24/7 NON STOP..IT DOES GET FRUSTRATING. WE JUST WANT THE GUY TO BE IN THE MIDDLE. OF COURSE YOU WANT SOMEBODY EXCITING, BUT NOT OVER THE TOP, SOMEBODY CARING, BUT NOT OBSESSIVE, AMBITIOUS, BUT DOES NOT LOVE MONEY MORE THAN THE FAMILY, U KNOW THE DRILL. ACTUALLY I HAVE A VERY CUTE COUSIN THAT IS IN THE MIDDLE, BUT THEN AGAIN HE IS MY COUSIN...LOL..SEND YOUR CV..I CAN EVALUATE AND SEE IF YOU MATCH....LOL...BUT SERIOUSLY...DATS THE KIND OF GUY EVERYBODY SHOULD WATCH OUT FOR. PRAYERFUL(A MUST), AND THEN OTHERS FOLLOW. BUT NOT TO GRAA GRAA!!!(AS MY MUM WOULD SAY)..U DONT WANT GUYS LIKE POP WHO ARE POPPING CHAMPAGNE EVERYDAY, SPENDING THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS/POUNDS/NAIRA..ON USELESS THINGS...THINGS OF THE WORLD. ITS ALL RUBBISH. YOU DO NOT WANT A GUY BUYING YOU DIAMONDS AND DESIGNER BAGS OF ALL SORTS WHEN HE IS TRYING TO APOLOGIZE FOR SOMETHING HE DID WRONG..DON'T GET ME WRING HE COULD BUY THOSE THINGS ONCE IN A WHILE IF HE CAN AFFORD IT, BUT NOT EVERY TIME...BECAUSE THEN YOU BECOME AN OBJECT TO HIM.BUT ALL HOPE IS NOT LOST. I ASKED A GUY FRIEND OF MINE THIS " WHAT SHOULD A GIRL/WIFE DO TO PREVENT A CHEATING HUSBAND, OR TO GET A GUY TO LOVE HER NO MATTER THE WHAT" AND HE SAID "WELL JUST PRAY, THAT IS ALL WE CAN DO" JUST PRAY!AND BEFORE I PUT MY PEN DOWN....LET ME CLARIFY SOMETHINGS UPTHIS DOES NOT IN ANY WAY MEAN GUYS ARE THE ONLY ONES TO BLAME, CUZ GIRLS ARE TOOAND FOR GIRLS WHO THINK THEY CAN SLEEP WITH PEOPLES DADS FOR MONEY....AND FOR OTHER BOYFRIEND/ HUSBAND SNATCHERS..YES YOU!! ...TAKE YOUR TIME O!! (ARISTOS..OR WHATEVER YOU CALL YOUR SELVES) IT AIN'T CUTE! YES I SAID IT!AND FOR THE GUYS THAT KEEP SAYING..I AM LOOKING FOR A SMART GIRL, QUIET GIRL, GIRL THAT CARRIES HERSELF WELL, GOOD FAMILY, NOT OUT THERE, GOOD PEDIGREE....HAVE YOU HAD TIME TO EVALUATE YOURSELF IN THE MIRROR YET??...(see below)

How can you say to another believer, 'Friend, let me take the piece of sawdust out of your eye,' when you don't see the beam in your own eye? You hypocrite! First remove the beam from your own eye. Then you will see clearly to remove the piece of sawdust from another believer's eye.(LUKE 6:42) YES I AM GOING GODLY ON YOUR ASS...

FOR ALL YOU HYPOCRITES.GUYS THAT CHEAT..IT WILL CATCH UP WITH YOU SOMEDAY...HAVE YOU HEARD OF THOSE WOMEN WHO KILL THEIR HUSBANDS..LOL..I DO NOT BLAME THEM NYWAYZ..JK....BUT NO SERIOUSLY....YOU THINK ITS JUST AKATA OR OYIBO GIRLS THAT ARE CRAZY LIKE THAT HUH....DON'T MESS WITH NAIJA GIRLS O.....OR ELSE.........WE WONT ONLY ACT AKATA ..BUT WE WILL GO SAW 1,2,3,4 ON YOUR ASS!!!......AS IN WE DON'T DO GUNS OR KNIVES...WE DO CUTLASSES, DRILLS, HAMMER, HOOKS, AS IN SOME TEXAS CHAIN SAW MASSACRE STURRVVZZ!!!

loves

from a mad black woman!!

ITS ALL ME!!

so i guess i have to start off with a little bit about myself, so that you get to know my background.

...one older sis/2 younger bros
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..I happen to be blessed with such lovely parents like mine. I know this because not only are they a good example to my siblings and i, they also happen to be an example to a lot of young couple/old couples....girls/boys...single ladies(love my mum)....and so much more.....

...Mum is a doctor, and a prof. of medicine(it ain't easy to be her)...dad is an engineer, and he does other things...too much to mention..i wouldn't even mention for his own safety
mums name is prof Ifeoma okoye(ask about her)...i will not say dads name..(for his safety)..lol...

i am into NGOs. I love to help, and care for people. I am a very caring person, sometimes too caring for my own good..but it's OK

i love my sis dearly...and i Will apologise to her, even if i do not want to, just to avoid getting on her bad side. I feel like i respect her a lot, even though she does not think so, but if she thinks about it well..the relationship that other sisters have is not the same..meaning...you hear the younger one calling the older one names.or saying shut up..stuff like dat..or using the f word..blah blah blah..

My brothers..hmmm..those boys....they treat me like i am the baby of the house, when i am actually the second..ITS NOT FAIR..i refuse to be treated like the baby of the house....ermmm..NAT!!..actually i quite like it..

My Dada(daddy)..thinks i smile too damn much!..thinks my boobs are too big, thinks i need to loose weight..lol...thinks i always seem to manipulate him into getting what i want, and he falls for it...(just like your mother, he says). hehehe, he calls me chichi instead of chinny, and kisses me on my forehead, and whispers the three letter words "i love you" oh what a dad...and oh did i tell you he was cute!....

My mum thinks i am the most beautiful girl in this planet..yes!..she does really, but thinks i need to loose weight to get to my full potential, she is worried that i might have diabetes like some of her siblings, and grandma, my thinks i act like a baby, (but i like being a baby..its me).hehe...she loves me so much, but she thinks i talk too much, she hates it when i ask her if what i am wearing looks nice, she dislikes my shyness...she Ioves my passion for makeup because she can use me as her personal makeup artist (free of charge..that is)...mummy take your time o!
ermm..i love to sing..like loooovveee to sing.lol. I love writing..hehe of course. jibirsh..that is..i love makeup(i happen to be a makeup artist part time)...

I am about to graduate from the university of Massachusetts Boston. studying philosophy and public policy with a minor in African studies.I hope to form my own ngo, that has to do with either women or children. My plan is to move to London to a school called London college of communications to study public relations. If not i will go to the school of oriental and African studies to study human rights law, but i know i will do well with pr.

ermmm....i hate people who use me because i happen to be nice. I hate people who take and take and take and never give back. whats up with that?..i detest cheating men, mainly because my Dada happens to be on the few Nigerian men who does not cheat, and i am not just saying..call me naive or ignorant, but this is true (ask about him)I refuse to accept a cheating man. i REFUSE.

I have had a few married men who try to chat me up, try to use their money to get me, but naaa,i do not roll like that..very tempting, but ill pass..but very tempting...lol..btw you silly old sods should be ashamed of yourselves really..

i love cheesecake and skittles..i happen to like cheesecake ice cream...hehe...

i am constantly on a diet...lol

i can be flirtatious sometimes, but it does not mean i like you..

I have done things that does not say well of me, but i shall not regret them. I learn from them

I have had only one serious relationship..on and off..on and off....finaly..finally over...

I am simple..designer bags, shoes..things in general do not and will never fascinate me like they do other people..its a bit sickening i must say.
did i mention i love makeup!

my face happens to be very smooth..one of the things i like about me is my FACE!..yes i said it!!.lol...but I'm pretty descent if you ask me..lol
i need someone to help me so that i can love to exercise..esp.,my stomach..lol..i need it to be flat...please help!!

I love kids..babies.esp..i can die to have a baby....Oh my..like it is an obsession i have..i swear..and guess what they seem to love me to...i was telling my friend two days ago that i want a kid..i do really....hopefully they will be as cute as me..if not cuter..but then that would be an abormination..heheh..i kid i kid..i joke i joke..

OK.more to come.....