PRIORITIES CHANGE AT EVERY STAGE IN LIFE!

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO MY WONDERFUL MAMA!....IN THE RED SCARF ALSO...LOVE YOU! So yesterday i was having one of my thoughts, writing random stuff in my "pink book" and something just came to mind, and the next thing i saw myself writing "PRIORITIES CHANGE AT EVERY STAGE IN LIFE" and decided to talk about it on here.

So i was thinking about my mum, when this sentence/phrase came to mind..am going to use my mumsi as an example, just to make things easy.

When Ifeoma was born she had no priorities, i mean how could she, she is a baby, she can't even think or say anything, the only thing she has to do is cry until she gets the breast milk,it was just a "piece of cake" "a piece of pie" at the time(meaning everything was all rosey).NO PRIORITIES!

Now when Ifeoma reaches the stage of being a "kid/child"(5-10)..when she actually starts thinking, her priorities are making sure that daddy comes back home with ice cream, making sure that she comes first in class, so that she can travel during the summer,(actually sorry then there was no money like that to travel...lets say travel to Lagos..lol) making sure that she makes friends in class, making sure that she does not fall out with her friends, etc...

Ifeoma is now in another phase in life i will call this the "gossip phase"/"teenage phase"...at this stage in Ifeomas life, she gets into high school, priorities change again, she still makes sure that she comes first in class, tries as hard as possible to become a prefect which she eventually did(head girl), starts thinking about boys, starts getting jealous of other girls, wants to wear skimpy outfits, get in trouble with mum and dad for getting home late, wants to go out at night, gossip, gossip, and more gossip, about what this girl did with this guy, or how Ada was dancing with Folabi during socials, she has a boyfriend(MY DAD..YES MY DAD)..what a coincidence?..lol..these are her priorities, of course until the Biafran war..then things had to change...less gossip, no time for boyfriends, no school, so all she did, was cook, clean, take care of her her siblings, and run from one village to another for safety.(thankfully nobody dies!)..well in her family..that is.

The next stage of her life is when things start getting more serious 'career stage/boyfriend stage' / "young adult" Ifeoma gets into uni, she decides to study medicine, she starts thinking more and more about getting married, at this time her boyfriend moves to Texas, so they break up(my dad, again)....so she dates different other guys, she goes out during the weekend, wears skimpy clothes(and she wore em well!..lol), she starts concentrating more on trying to finish school, starts thinking more of where she wants to work, what kind of doctor she wants to be, who she is going to get married to, how her children will be, etc..(you know the drill cause most of us are still in this stage, your heart gets broken,again and again...etc.

The next stage is "graduation, work, and marriage" at this stage she has had a few people that want/have asked to marry her, she turns them down, she starts dating this guy who she should is engaged to be married too, she starts getting confused about who she wants to marry, people start disturbing her about getting married, being that she is going into medicine, she is still in school(it takes about 8 years), this dude comes back from Texas after so long, and then asks her out, she does "guy"(fronts) for a few month, breaks up with her then fiancee, marries this other guy(my dad)..after a while...

The next stage "honey moon stage"/ "after married life" The wedding is over, now your priorities have got to change, Ifeoma then tries to have babies, she graduates from school, now she is a doctor(radiologist), she starts working, everything is going fine, after six years of not being able to have children, she finally takes in(won't go into details about that), travels to London, stays there till the last child is born, after about five years comes back home, now priorities change again, its all about her children(but she kept on working), depending on who you are, you might decide to stop work, at this stage in her life, all she thinks about is her children, how to make them Happy, how to make sure they do well in school, work, making her husband happy, making the in laws happy(now that's just another topic), making sure she still looks good, even though she has had four children, basically its all about family

The next stage is "ME" obviously after the kids are all grown up, you start to look back at your life, and wonder whether you are where you want to be at 45, and realise oh shoot, i am not, then you start looking on some more business ideas, you start thinking a lot about yourself. In this case, Ifeoma, starts to try out different business ideas,to no avail, then she tries and tries until she finds one that actually works for her, now this becomes her priority, she tries as much as possible to be successful, keeping her self busy now the children are not around, she becomes a "PROFESSOUR OF MEDICINE(PHD)" (OK now that's a big step), women want to be you, people are congratulating you, your reaching that goal, work as a doctor is going well, your business (NGO for breast cancer) is going well, and she is now known as 'prof, so what next, Your husband is getting upset, that you are really never around anymore, you are constantly working...thinking about yourself, "you are your priority"..

The next stage is where your children start getting married, business is flourishing, hopefully at this stage you should be where you wanted to be in life, marriage is good/OK/or it could be great, in this case, great..(could be better, it could never be perfect now can it?), children are graduating, /getting married/ having babies/, you start getting old, you retire, etc...

Anyways you guys are getting the point abi? Sorry i know i scribbled a lot. My point is though, priorities change at every stage in life,. I am not saying that every woman that is 21 to 27 wants to get married, cause at that stage some people might not be ready to get married, and some people might be very ready for that, so depending on the type of person you are, and what you want out of life, your priorities change. I am sure all of you guys have seen your self change, the things you thought where very important like going out clubbing, or gossiping, are not as important to you anymore. At one stage in your life, you might decide school is my priority, the next stage, boyfriend(depending on you), next stage your husband, then children, the family in general, then work, and it keeps changing everyday.

Just a thought!

Random..my mums Godson just got married last Saturday in Lagos, and the bride came in with a helicopter....wow!..iis that something you would like to do?...yes no....NO for me..but its cool though..i guess..anyways wish i was there..

who else apart from me thinks your mum just has to be one of the smartest women, most beautiful, classiest ...wonderful women in Nigeria, people like her could rule Nigeria, and bring it back to reality....We need more women like her..I love seeing women that are hardworking, doing really well, and also extremely gorgeous, as in..you know the P...i see a lot of mothers like that. Extremely hot, and Extremely beautiful at the same time....there's nothing like it...that has to be me when i am older.